Why is there so much emphasis on distinguishing ourselves from “normals” or “basics”? While it is hard to connect to people who don’t share our interests (and much less our views), it’s not impossible. Of course it all comes down to the effort we choose to make, but sometimes the only “effort” required is to drop a patronizing attitude and realize that decent people (even good ones, too, go figure) exist in all shapes, sizes, lifestyles, and musical orientations.
With such a huge (and wonderful) focus on acceptance in underground scenes, it’s disheartening to hear people put others down because they look too “normal.” The hatred goes both ways, of course, and having lived in a “college town” for a long time, I saw this regularly: there existed a huge divide between sports-gear-flaunting students and those in the diy scene.
And with good reason. The one thing I miss the most now that I’ve moved away are the small, inclusive spaces where I could meet people with the same interests, tastes, etc. as me, and actually listen to good music surrounded by people who cared. In a massive sea of orange and blue, shows provided a comforting, black island.
What I don’t support is the hateful attitude within our community. From the derogatory names to the idea that we are somehow superior because we don’t follow sports teams, don’t listen to mainstream music or read celebrity news, there is an unnecessary (yet almost mandatory) disdain for those who don’t adhere to our views. Isn’t that sort of fit-in-to-be-respected attitude what we’re supposed to be fighting for in the first place?
So I suggest that we take the time to reconsider our double standards and to stop judging others based on how they dress or what they listen to. Sure, music does shape a person to a great extent, but good and bad people are born from all sorts of environments. Of course it remains up to each one of us to decide with whom we associate, and someone with different interests, views, or lifestyle may not seem worth our while. But this does not mean that we need to be hateful towards them, and it certainly doesn’t justify harassment of any sort.